Don’t Ask Your Kid “How Was School Today?”

I'm not usually a very creative person. A lot of times, when I am under pressure, I am not quick and I cannot come up with alternatives. If I ask my children "how was school today?" and they shrug, I didn't know what to do after that. Now, I do, and the solution was really easy.


I read a lot of stuff on the Internet.  Every once in a while I discover that there are some obstacles in life that I simply don't consider using the Internet so solve.  Talking to my kids was one of those things.

In general, I'm not a very social person, but I'm working on it.  I know when people are trying to talk to me and sometimes I even notice when I am a bad conversation partner.  I also appreciate it when people try harder to ask me questions to keep the conversation going.  ​

One of our children is very shy and reserved. When I used to ask him how his day was at school, I would almost always get a shrug a "why?".  No matter what I tried to ask or no matter how I tried to coax an answer out of him, he just never opened up.

So, I turned to the Internet for some help.  Whoa, there are actually a lot of lists out there and it makes me think that I'm not the only one that has this problem.  The list that has been the most helpful to me is one from Huffington Post, but please do a few internet searches of your own for "how was school today" and see what is out there.

I can think of a number of benefits that can come from doing this regularly:

  • It builds your communication skills
  • It builds your child's communication skills
  • It can alert you to problems your child is facing in school
  • You may be able to identify your child's school friends
  • You will get an idea of how your child's teacher handles the class
  • It will build a relationship of trust between you and your child
  • It will be fun
  • These conversations could be the source of fond memories for your child as he/she grows up

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