I enjoy reading books. Mostly science fiction, fantasy, and self-help books. As odd as it seems, I also enjoy reading role-playing game manuals because of the world that they create, the great art and I find the game mechanics interesting.
I have been criticized for reading too many self-help books and not applying what I discovered. That's part of the reason that decided to start this blog - to accomplish something with the knowledge that I have and to do it NOW, instead of whenever I feel like it.
I came across a blog post recently that claims that 90% of all self-help books say the same thing. At first, I thought it was a parody, but as I read the list of 12 things that most self-help books have in common, I thought about the books that I have read and I began agree with the post. Whether it is a self-help book or a motivational speaker, a large percentage of them cover the same points and sprinkle their own opinions, experiences, and inspirational stories.
- You Create Your Own Life
You are not a victim. You are 100% responsible for the life you have right now. If you are unhappy, you have the power to change your attitude and actions to begin making your life better. Always remember, whether you think life sucks or you think life is great, either way, you're right.
- You Make Yourself Feel the Way You Feel
Ever notice how some people are able to brush off insults, while others get furious and start throwing punches? Realize that nobody can "make" you feel anything. You are the one that "chooses" to feel good or bad about a particular event or action that occurs.
- Fake It Until You Make It
If you want to be more confident, happy, or positive, then "pretend" that you already are this way. Eventually, after practicing this long enough, you'll realize that you're no longer "pretending".
- Follow Your Purpose
A purpose is what you enjoy doing that you never get tired of and you will do for the rest of your life. Is your purpose to write screenplays? Is it to help sick people? Write down on index cards a list of purposes and choose the one that speaks to you the most.
- Set Goals and Schedule Your Day
List out 5 to 10 goals that you want for your life. Break each goal up into smaller sub-goals and then break those sub-goals into individual tasks and action steps. Every night, plan the next day in advance. Create a daily "to-do list" with those tasks that you need to do to accomplish your goal.
- Live in the Present
Regret and shame come from dwelling in the past. Worrying and anxiety come from living in the future. True peace of mind comes from living in the present. The more you become aware of being in the present, the more it becomes a part of your daily life.
- The Power of Attraction
The power of attraction is a powerful mental tool. The process works by focusing on something that you want while visualizing that you already have it. You then have a heightened level of awareness for recognizing opportunities that occur around you. These opportunities will then assist in bringing what you want into your physical reality.
- Expand Your Comfort Zone
Your comfort zone (what you feel comfortable doing) is always in a state of either expanding or contracting. The more you get out in the world and do what you feel uncomfortable doing, the less inhibited you become, thereby allowing you to live a richer and fuller life.
- Be Thankful for What You Have
Every morning before you start your day, give thanks and appreciation for what you have. It's only when we are thankful for what we have that life gives us more blessings and abundance to be thankful for.
- The Power of Asking
Don't be afraid to ask for what you want. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. It's the reason that children ask their parents for the same thing over and over again, because they know mom and dad will eventually cave in. The same concept works in the real world. If there is something in the world you want, ask for it...or at least ask how to get it.
- Learn From the Pros and Copy Them
Find the successful people in your field and ask them for advice. Ask them what they do to be successful, take notes, and then copy them. A lot of people think that the pros don't want to share. The opposite is actually true. Most successful people are more that willing to share their knowledge if you ask them.
- Ignore the Trolls
Trolls are people that will try to discourage you from your dreams. Don't listen to them. Realize that the only reason they are doing it is because by seeing you chase after your dreams, it's reminding them that they aren't chasing theirs. Misery loves company.
If you aren't doing it now, make some time to start reading a little every day. Feed your mind. Even if you don't end up climbing Mount Everest next week, we all have to start somewhere. I guarantee that reading will change the way you view the world and someday, it will give you the power to change your world.